...trust in the magic of new beginnings
Uncertainty is never easy unless we learn to embrace it. What does that mean? It means learn to be okay with not knowing the outcome of life's circumstances. The more difficult the situation the more it will require of you mentally and emotionally. You will be required to surrender, adjust and adapt to change. Even as a goal digger with endless plans you must learn to adjust as you move along your path just as a sailor adjusts her sails with the wind.
What's brought you here to this point in time? You've likely prayed for growth and change. It's what we do right? Now here you are at your new beginning but you may not see it that way yet. Perhaps you're well aware it's time for something different and you've gotten here by choice. Or it could be by chance after an unforeseen life event. Instead of recognizing your new beginning you may only be focusing on an unpleasant ending of some sort. Life may have thrown you lemons and now it's time to make the most out of them, love. Whatever the reason you're here in this moment, this article will help you discover what's next. While you may not find all the answers here, I promise if you keep an open mind and embrace your circumstances you'll begin to experience a necessary shift in your thinking.
Growth and comfort do not co-exist. ~ Ginni Rometty
Growth requires change, within.
From experience, observation and listening to others I know that growth requires change. In fact, growth is change itself. You can not expect nor experience growth without changing something within you. Each level you climb and each phase you go through there will be something within you that requires change in order for you to reap the rewards. Think of people who increase their income significantly whether through their work, an inheritance or winning the lottery. Often, they end up either broke with no money (especially lotto winners) or they can have millions and still live a broke life because they didn't change their relationship habits with money. Holding on to old habits will keep you in an endless loop which can also deteriorate your self-esteem. You must change your mindset! The greater your growth the more uncomfortable you're likely to feel so get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
When it comes to growth and new beginnings it's a time to see yourself and the world in new ways, with new eyes. Like many people, you may reject change even if you know it's good and necessary. I've been guilty of this myself when it comes to technological updates. I know they are meant to be improvements but who feels like figuring out something new or just something different? To hell with the learning curve! Or, try switching from an Android to an iPhone...I was almost in tears (literally) learning a new calendar which I ultimately rejected and found an app with similar functions to my Android! You can also look at all the people nearly one year into the Covid-19 pandemic who are still waiting for things to go back to the way they were. What changes are you rejecting that are keeping you from growing or keeping you in a place of discomfort?
They say if you want to make God laugh just tell him your plans.
Change causes a paradigm shift.
With a paradigm shift you can either embrace it or get stuck in the past which can lead to other problems like depression. Your paradigm shift may be changing your future in ways your are inclined to reject and refuse to accept. Your plans and dreams may feel shattered but let's try looking at the glass as half full. It's imperative to learn how to embrace what's new and what's next even if you're unsure of what that is. A good way to help you do this is by practicing gratitude. Being grateful in the present for all of your blessings and intentionally focusing on them one-by-one has a tendency to put things into perspective. Even if this doesn't leave you feeling "lucky" you do realize it's not the end of the world. It's not even the end of the road but rather a new path along the way. It's up to you how you respond to this shift. You can choose acceptance or resistance. Your responses will determine how difficult your circumstances feel. It's all about your interpretation, your perspective, and how you choose to respond.
I absolutely love new beginnings! With each new beginning comes an opportunity to reinvent yourself. I've certainly done it more times than I can count and have learned to look forward to what's next no matter how painful my present is. I've learned that no matter my circumstances there's a valuable lesson for me and I remain open to learning what that lesson is and have even learned to seek it. This is an opportunity to change your mindset, willingly. Ask yourself why am I here and what am I to learn. If you are calm, still and clear you will find the answers you seek. They are already within you. You may have had the answers for years but never acknowledged them because you rejected change or the end of an experience. Now it's in your face, unavoidable and likely painful. What is your lesson? What have you heard so far from that voice in the back of your head? What information have you gathered? Try getting out of your and start writing it down. This should help you gain clarity. Do this when you are at peace in a quiet place.
We can either move willingly or God will move us Himself!
An opportunity to be a better you.
If you could be a better version of yourself what would that look like? If you could have any career, any lifestyle, any material possessions, live anywhere in the world what would this life look like for you? The fact is, we make decisions at a point in our lives and even when our desires change we stick with our decisions as if we don't have a choice. We choose things, circumstances and people over ourselves. We limit our growth because we are committed to a decision another version of ourselves made long ago. Now here you are looking for what's next in your life, how to become better. Are you rejecting the changes required because it doesn't fit your vision, plan or expectations? If you're having trouble moving forward there's a great chance this is the reason. Learn to surrender. Appreciate change and know that it is okay. Give yourself permission to grow, permission to change your mind and permission to let go.
There are usually a set of thoughts, beliefs and ideologies behind our behaviors. What's motivating you? It's important to understand your core values and priorities. Understanding your thoughts and feelings is necessary to uncovering why you're here in the first place. Only then can you move forward. Spend some time dreaming big. Think about what your perfect life looks like. Think about the ways in which you need to take control of yourself and what you need to let go of. Control what you can and leave the rest to God.
Who do you need to trust?
Maybe you're afraid to make the wrong decision. I'm still guilty of this sometimes but I always remind myself to be honest with me and trust my intuition. Sometimes making a decision is difficult because we haven't learned to trust ourselves. When that fails you must have the faith of a mustard seed and trust in God or some higher power bigger than you. Think back to all the other hardships you've had. You made it through right? No matter what decision you made things turned out okay and likely in your favor, perhaps better than you imagined. Some may say you got lucky. But I happen to know that God has His own plan and while we don't always need to see or understand it we must always trust.
I'm not here to convince you to put your trust in other people. Surely that more often leads to projecting our own expectations onto them and disappointment. But I'm hoping you'll learn to trust yourself and your intuition more so that when change comes you will be more willing to welcome it. It's all part of the process. This brings me to what's probably the most important takeaway of this article. You must learn to trust in the process. This includes the ups and the downs, love. Accept that life will not always go as planned. Know that you will always experience hardships just as you'll enjoy victories. Realize that as long as you seek growth you will face challenges. Embrace life's uncertainties for God's plan is always greater than yours. I hope you find peace and joy in the morning....
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About the Author
Lovisa Woodson II works as a Mindset & Fulfillment Coach helping women achieve greater life satisfaction, professional success and financial independence. She is a proud mother and lover of humanity, always looking for ways to add value to the lives of others. Her mission is to live her best life so she may teach others to do the same. Lovisa encourages us all to seek fulfillment over happiness and to always seize opportunities to be a blessing to others.