Ambivert: The Best of Both Worlds

Turn your struggles into strengths.

You may notices chatter about the comparisons between introverts and extraverts. Introverts are more reserved and tend to have a shyness about them. Extroverts are more outgoing and better at asserting themselves. The chatter is typically concerning introverts because of the challenges they often face which may lead to a lack of confidence when it comes to aiming for higher achievement in ones professional life.

I was inspired to write this article because I’ve been seeing more introverts openly discuss their challenges in forums such as Facebook and Clubhouse with groups dedicated to helping introverts become more comfortable with asserting themselves. I used to struggle just as they do. My Myers-Briggs test results (INTJ) once showed I was nearly 80% introvert. The thought of speaking in front of any group would literally give me goose bumps and stomach pangs. Ugh! Today, I’m considered ambivert with almost an equal mixture of both introvert (52.9%) and extrovert (47.1%).

Don't be fooled by my quiet exterior. It hides a wild mind and passionate heart. ~ John Mark Green

Why are these personality traits important?

Learning about your personality is essential to your success and fulfillment. In regards to introversion and extroversion this is important because it correlates to how you relate to yourself and your environment. It has a direct effect on how you interact with others and more importantly, how comfortable (or uncomfortable) you are interacting with others. It effects your relationships and social experiences, and can heavily impact your career performance which is what I’ll be discussing here, Goal Digger. You’ll find some helpful tools and resources I’ve personally used over the years to help me understand myself better and consequently increase my performance.

Introvert vs Extrovert

Introverts typically enjoy more time with themselves. In fact, they require it as they tend to feel drained and need to rest and recharge after being around others for extended periods of time. They may know lots of people but prefer smaller groups of friends and more intimate settings. I’ve personally always enjoyed hanging with one or two friends at a time. Sometimes introverts seem to flake out on events at the last minute. Don’t take it personal. They likely just need some time alone and the idea of being out surrounded by crowds of people is a bit exhausting. Introverts usually spend a lot of time in their heads, alone with their own thoughts.

In contrast extraverts are more outgoing and verbally expressive. They love spending time around other people, larger groups of friends and don’t mind crowds. Extraverts enjoy being the center of attention and can be counted on to be the life of the party. They enjoy exciting events and find it easy to engage and meet new people. These are not your wall flowers! They may find too much alone time to be a bore and need time with friends for a pick-me-up.

Enjoying both worlds as an ambivert.

Now that we’ve highlighted the differences between introverts and extroverts let’s mush them together and get the best of both worlds!

An ambivert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion, and can flip into either depending on their mood, context, and goals. Ambiverts have also been called: Outgoing introverts: An introvert who can be outgoing in certain situati